Saturday, March 13, 2004

The only one you will never leave or lose

I was touched reading RyukyuSoul entry Ever Have One of THOSE Days?. Later, that reminded me of this wonderful book I read years ago. Check your local public library. I'm sure you'll enjoy it as well.

Here's the book jacket inside front and back flap text to the 1965 edition:
Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave nor lose. To the question of your life, you are the only answer. To the problems of your life, you are the only solution.
This is the premise of Jo Coudert’s brilliant book, hailed by psychiatrists and laymen alike as a breakthrough in the field of self-understanding. No other book is comparable in its intelligent synthesis of twentieth century knowledge of the workings of the human mind in terms designed to be of immediate and practical benefit to the reader. Many persons have found, suddenly, in these pages, the answers to problems that have kept them from the fun pleasures and satisfactions they want out of life.

From a reading of this book, you will learn how to recognize specific situations that cause you unhappiness - and how to handle such situations successfully. In concrete, practical detail, you will discover how to lessen discomfort with people who trouble you and how to reason with unreasonable people. You will gain insight into family relationships, into marriage problems, and into money problems.

The discussion of sex as recreation will enable you to find added and repeated joy in your life. Whether male or female, you will learn how to detect unhappy patterns in love, and how to break those patterns If you choose to do so. You will see, too, how "selfishness" can actually preserve love.

You will discover if you are one of the angry or one of the guilty, and how this discovery can help you deal successfully with the troublesome people in your life. You will learn how to cope with your anger, how to lighten the burden of unnecessary guilt feelings. You will become aware how much your adult life has been shaped by what you were like as a child, and what to do about it now, how to free yourself from those shadows.

One of the great joys of this book is that it demonstrates how to enhance enriching friendships ships, how to get along with people at work (even the difficult ones), how to re-examine and improve prove the ways in which you deal with members of your own family. Most importantly, it will show you how to deal with yourself.

That is the key to this book. Your self, here explained in nontechnical language in a style you will warm to in the very first pages.

Advice from a Failure is extraordinarily practical. You will find yourself marking up passages, reading and re-reading whole sections time and again, and showing paragraphs to people close to you. If ever a publisher could make a promise to a reader none could be more certain than that you will be grateful for this book the rest of your life, for that is what is at stake.

Jo Coudert is brilliantly equipped to be the author of this book by virtue of the combination of her expertness in two fields. She has edited many textbooks in the fields of psychiatry and medicine and is an editor of The International Journal of Group Psychotherapy. In addition, she is, happily, a gifted and graceful writer with a special talent for presenting complex and personal material in a clear and strikingly memorable way.

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